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Is Your Marriage on Auto-Pilot?
Ah...remember that honeymoon
phase when you first fell in love? You may have even
been in the lust and infatuation stage before you even
realized you were in love. You felt giddy, smitten,
and were walking on air. Your heart went pitter patter
and your breath was shallow whenever you were around
your honeypie. You were busy with work and responsibilities,
but you would always catch up later. At this phase you
wanted to spend all your waking hours with your sweetheart.
But then came love, then came marriage,
then came Junior in the baby carriage. Suddenly, there
are bills to pay; places to go, repairs to do and you’re
just tired all the time. You relent with a sigh, “so
this is marriage?!”
Whether you’ve been married 12
months or 12 years, it doesn’t have to mean the
honeymoon is over. Think back to the effort you made
initially when you were wooing your betrothed. You get
what you give. If you give a humdrum effort day in and
day out, that’s what you’ll get in return.
If you give romance and spark, guess what? You’ll
get the same in return?
Forgot how to do that? No worries. Here
are ten suggestions to help jump start your hibernating
marriage.
1. Drop off a cup of coffee and an apple
to your spouse at work. Don’t stay; just say you
appreciate the hard work and thought he/she might be
ready for a break.
2. Place a note in the sole of his/her
shoes “You’re my heart and sole”
3. When your spouse gets home from work
have a picnic all prepared – in the bedroom. Picnic
blanket spread across the bed, beverage of choice, shrimp,
strawberries, bread. If the kids are around, have a
pizza waiting for them and tell them that the parents
need some time to discuss some things.
4. If you live in a winter climate,
take your wife’s/husband’s clothes (assuming
it’s not a suit or dress) and put them in the dryer
first thing in the morning. Getting dressed into warm
snuggly clothes in the dead of winter is a real treat.
5. Leave a love note in the purse or
briefcase.
6. Participate in one of your spouse’s
activities that you’d rather not. Go fishing with
him, go to a play with her, walk the golf course with
him, take her shopping – just try it. Even if it’s
not the time of your life, the fact that you wanted
to do something he/she enjoys will speak volumes.
7. Go for a walk and for gosh sakes,
hold hands!
8. Have some sexy pictures taken of
you. Even if you use your own digital camera in your
spouse’s favorite outfit (or lack of one!) Most
cameras are equipped with self timers. Leave it in the
lunch box or have it waiting in the car with a note
“meet me for lunch at noon at xxx”
9. Switch chores. If you don’t
normally take out the trash, do it this week. If it’s
usually her job to do laundry, just do a load.
10. Compliment your spouse often. Don’t
say it if you don’t mean it, but there is always
something positive you can say. Whether, “I appreciate
you working hard every day for us.” Or “That
dinner was fantastic” “That outfit makes you
look really hot.” Whatever – so long as you’re
sincere and you keep them coming!
Hopefully this has given you a start.
Please give it some thought. Your random acts of kindness
need not be time consuming nor expensive. Just remember,
a little goes a long, long way!
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