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How to Handle Divorce
The ink is not even dry
and you feel different. You know that you will never
be the same. You are irrevocably different. You know
that! You feel that! What do you do now? Whether your
divorce was your choice or the choice of your partner,
you are now different, and you will have to embrace
the changes that will come your way.
There are two directions you can now
take. The high road or the low road, but the choice
will be yours. The latter one leads to resentment, bitterness,
and self destruction. You can build anger and resentment
toward your former partner which will lead you to find
ways of seeking revenge. If you chose this road to walk
down you will find yourself arguing and fighting over
every minute item. Your emotions will get out of control
on this road and you will take much too long to heal
while on it.
Words will be spoken that are meant
to hurt each other. What will this accomplish? Will
you find peace and satisfaction on this road? Many have
walked down it. Some never return. Do you think it is
worth ruining your life and, perhaps, others while seeking
revenge? What about your children, if any are involved?
The higher road is more secure. There
is dignity on the higher road. This road is much more
promising because it offers such things as: peace, forgiveness,
and, most of all, healing. But, make no mistake about
it, this road is the most difficult.
This road means taking responsibility
for your own actions. It may require that you admit
that you need others to come along side of you for support.
Everyone needs help from time to time
in life. However, many lack the freedom or courage to
ask for help. You may want to browse the self-help books
at your local book store to find assistance. If you
were belittle by your ex spouse you will have to be
in continuos dialogue with yourself presenting positive
statements to your inner person.
The higher road leads to forgiveness.
In order for you to be set free you will have to release
your ex. It is such a simple statement, but one of the
most difficult decisions to make, and then, apply.
However, forgiving the one who hurt
you is the ultimate means to growth and healing. As
much as it hurts to release someone of the pain they
brought into your life, it is a necessity.
The ink may not be dry, but you don't
have to wait until it is to take the higher road. You
can get on it today!
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