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To Love Without Saying Is Not Enough. People Need To
Be Told That They Are Loved
We live in an age
wherein our daily utterances are often sprinkled with
the choicest four letter words, yet we rarely use the
four letter word everyone longs to hear - LOVE. And,
strangely enough, although everybody is seeking the
holy grail of happiness, today we find that people feel
insecure more than ever before.
What is the reason for this? Happiness
stems from being loved and wanted, one of the basic
psychological needs in each of us that demands fulfillment.
People are willing to go to any lengths to find love.
Nations have gone to war, kings have abdicated their
thrones, and star-crossed lovers have made suicide pacts
- all for love.
On the other hand, murders are committed,
people exhibit aggression, others withdraw into their
shell, and some even take their own lives - all for
a lack of love. The world's first murder was a result
of Cain's envy, because he perceived that God loved
his brother, Abel, more. Marilyn Monroe had the world
at her feet, with fame and fortune, but overdosed because
she did not have the one thing she yearned for more
than anything else - to be loved and cherished.
The search for this "sweet mystery
of life" even leads young men and women to sell
their souls and bodies for what they crave. They know
such love and attention will not endure, yet they let
their hearts rule their minds, and their emotions conquer
plain logic.
The word "love" may be only
four letters long, but it is the most powerful word
in the world, because it describes the awesome power
residing in every human heart - emotion! But, it is
a double-edged weapon. It can spur on an individual
to do heroic deeds on one hand, as well as cause death
and destruction on the other.
Love is, therefore, the engine that
drives on people to accomplish the impossible. But this
engine, like any other, requires a certain brand of
fuel. Frequent refueling with the "I LOVE YOU"
brand of high octane fuel will keep this engine purring
lovingly. And, the love will be returned in equal measure,
because those that are loved find it easy to give love
back.
Being loved, and knowing that they are
loved, makes people confident, relaxed and happy. Look
around you. If you see anybody "floating"
along with a secret smile on their face and a tune on
their lips, you are looking at someone that is loved
- and knows it!
Recently, a well-known psychologist
was working with a teenage boy who was having serious
problems. As they talked, the boy was asked as to whether
his parents loved him. The teenager looked up sadly
and said, "I don't know, but if they do, they've
never told me!"
Please don't make the same mistake.
To love without saying so is not enough. People need
to be told that they are loved. Again, and again, and
again! It is cruel and thoughtless to leave our loved
ones in doubt about our affection for them. It's no
use regretting later, when they are no more there to
hear you.
If you have a friend worth loving,
Love him. Yes, and let him know
That you love him, ere life's evening
Tinge his brow with sunset glow.
Why should good words ne'er be said
Of a friend - till he is dead?
- Anonymous
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